28 Days of Asking: Day 4
What’s the first thing I reach for when I’m uncomfortable?
Last night I went to the Beacon Council Annual Meeting (celebrating 40 years 🥳).
A room full of leaders and innovators. A lot of energy, a lot of vision, a lot of talk about what Miami is becoming.
By the time I got home, I was full. Not drained,just saturated.
So I ate dinner (a delicious Lasagna courtesy of Lauren Allan).
Moved to the couch after some clean-up. Picked up my phone. Scrolled for a while. Then a couple of episodes of Landman, and eventually sleep.
I’m not judging it. I’m just noticing.
Day 4: What’s the first thing I reach for when I’m uncomfortable?
Last night wasn’t discomfort in the painful sense. It was overstimulation. A lot of input. A lot of people. A lot of ideas bouncing around.
And when I got home, I reached for the screen for the low buzz. I needed to come down. To let the noise settle.
Phone. TV. Sleep. That’s the typical pattern.
I don’t think the reaching is bad. But I’m curious about it.
When something feels like too much. Stress, stimulation, uncertainty—there’s usually a reflex. A first move.
For me, a lot of the time, the screen is easy.
Not dramatically. Just quietly. The path of least resistance when my system needs to discharge.
The question isn’t whether the reaching is right or wrong. The question is whether I’m choosing it or reflexively doing it.
Not for the big discomforts. The small ones. The overfull feeling. The low-grade anxiety. The moment when something’s off and I don’t know what.
What’s the reflex? And is it serving or just soothing?
If you’re following along—pay attention today.
Not to the big moments. To the small ones.
When discomfort shows up, what do you reach for first?
